Message from Snookerlass

[Skypigeon]

Lorraine,
I've been through similar things throughout my life....loss of parents and brothers..and other relatives quite unexpectedly in accidents...so I KNOW WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW! My thoughts are with you and your son!
It will get better....
HUGS!
Louise

[PaulTheSoave]

When I was reading your message I was listening at the same moment to a song by Andrea Bocelli. Here are the lyrics of this song (the original is in italian)

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Go, I will wait for you
The flowers in the garden mark the time
Here I will draw the day of your return
You are so sure of my love
You take it away with you
Cupped in your hands
when you touch your face
As you still think of me
And if you need to, you can show the world
The world that doesn't know what life there is
in an uncaring absent heart
Doesn't know what life there is
In that only the heart can feel
Doesn't know.
Here I will wait for you
And steal kisses from time
Time is not enough to erase
The memories and the desire that
Remains closed in your hands
That you bring to your face.
You still think of me

I'll still be here
Dreaming of things that I don't know about you.
Where is the road that You will take on your return
I dream
Here I will wait for you
And steal kisses from time
I dream
A noise, the wind awakens me
And you're already here.


Andrea Bocelli Sogno lyrics

[Wim]

Life can be very cruel and can take away the ones you love. I can't help but I know how you feel. Much love and time will help you.

[snookerlass]

Thank you all so much for your kind words, you have made me feel a little better. At the moment my son and I are a complete mess, I have never felt such sadness, but I know in time the hurt will ease.
Bailey is in a better place, and new we loved her so much.
Once again thank you for your kind words. Take care. Lorraine. x

[Blondie]

Hi Lorraine,

............and good to hear from you..., and you're right, in time the hurt will ease...

Take care of yourself....x

[austrian_girl]

Hi Lorraine,

my thoughts are with you a lot. It's a very sad story and reminds one of the really important things in life. I really really hope that you will be happy again soon. I must apologise but I can't think of anything to say that wouldn't sound like a half-hearted cliché. All the best to you, your son and everybody else...

[snookerlass]

Today I received a call from Baileys mum telling me that the DA had phoned her to say as the drunk driver who KILLED Baily had no previous convictions, so is likely to receive only 3 years in prison.
I naively thought America had better sentences than here in the UK but it seems not.
Needless to say we are all devastated at this news, when are politicians going to do something about these pittance of a sentence. My grief is turning to anger now, I hope this man has a long and miserable life and the same thing happens to him. I'm sorry but I am so angry.

[snookerlass]

It's day 4 and I'm really struggling. All I can think of is poor Bailey being cut out off her car, and the pain she was going through in the hospital, all she was saying was phone Gary my son.
I can't eat sleep or do anything, I had to come home from work yesterday as I was a wreck.
Today I was going to dye her hair for her, and tomorrow we were all going to a little seaside town called Whitby which is about 30 miles away and so lovely.
I have never felt such pain and at the moment I just can't see it getting any better, I just keep sobbing and wish this would all go away as I can't cope with it all.
How do you get out of this black hole, when will the pain ease. Sorry all

[footygirl]

There is nothing I can say Lorraine to reduce the pain that you are going through. As you know pain turns to anger and also combines but your son needs you more than ever now. Keep supporting each other and you will get through this together.

Take care and all the best

Susie

[JohnHigginsFan]

This is sad news, and I'm very sorry to hear it. I don't really know what helpful or comforting words I could tell you but I wish you a strong hand to pull you and your son out of this big black hole, Lorraine.

[davis_greatest]

So very sorry, Snookerlass, to hear this terrible news. My thoughts are with you, your son and the girl's family and friends...

[Nina]

My dear Lorraine,
I always feel so useless in such cases, all I can say is I am deeply sorry.

If only there was a recipe, rules to follow to get out of the "black hole" (good word for it). It's true you go through phases, and it takes time before you have a day when you don't feel your body aching from the grief. But that day does come eventually.
The way I see it, the people we love live inside of us, so the best way to honour them is remembering them - not with pain, but tenderness and love.

Be well, my thoughts are with you.

[Miss Walker]

Lorraine, I am so very deeply sorry for your loss. I know from own eperience how you feel. I also know that whatever I say will not do Bailey's memory justice nor lessen the pain nor make you feel less lost, because words, especially written ones, are never enough to express all that we want to convey.

Please, don't ever apologize to us for crying or writing about what you are feeling. Hug your son, family and friends real close.

My thoughts are with you and your son and Bailey and her family.

The stars are not wanted now, put out every one
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods
For nothing now can ever come to any good

W.H. Auden

[Skypigeon]

Lorraine,
As an Elton-fan I know he has written an instrumental piece of music called "Funeral For a Friend"...it's coupled with another song called "Love Lies Bleeding"...these pieces have helped me through alot...

[DawRef]

Hi Snookerlass

Just picked up this thread.
My thoughts and heart go out to you. About 35 years ago, a college friend was killed by a drunk driver. My other friend, who was driving the car hit by the DD, and his sister were lucky to get away with slight injuries. All the drunk driver got was a years ban and £100 fine. Where is the justice?

I hope you and your son have found some sort of solace from the replies on this site.